We don’t have a clue.

July 20, 2014

We were on a drive through the town where we met on our way to have dinner with my family.

I didn’t have a clue what that day would hold when all of a sudden Micah took a mysterious right hand turn down a street that does not lead to my hometown.

“I know this road.”

I was doing everything within my mental capacity to fight the train of thoughts that were rolling through my brain but much like a train, they were unstoppable.

“Is this it?

Is Micah proposing today?

Nope. Do not get excited.

This is not it.

This is just a casual Sunday drive.”

As we pulled into the parking lot of a secluded city park, I could not fight the excitement anymore. This was the exact spot I’d made a tearful and loving proclamation to my best friend Micah 3 years prior.

“This is it.”

He nervously asked me to come with him as we got out of the car but we didn’t go far. We stood in an empty parking lot and he sat the ring box on the hood of the car. (I always appreciated the gesture of being up front with what was about to go down.) As he began to speak, I said to myself “pay close attention, you’re going to want to remember this.”

He asked me to be his wife.

I said, “Is this real life?”

We laughed through tears and I did finally say yes.

We didn’t have a clue.

That was 6 years ago.

We’ve moved 3 times, changed jobs 6 times, bought a house, got a dog, completed 1 seminary degree, experienced devastating loss and labored an amazing little life and after 6 years, life doesn’t look like what we thought it would.

We still don’t have a clue.

But here’s the secret no one’s selling you – none of us have a clue.

We’re all just doing the best we can and learning as we go.

That’s what makes marriage so dang hard – there is no cooker cutter perfect marriage template that I can type up and pass on as a PDF.

The happily ever after that the fairy tales promise falls short when the story stops at two people falling in love. Sharing your life with another person is not easy. We are sinful, imperfect human beings seeking to serve a perfect God.

Our happily ever after happens when we enter our eternal home in glory where the bride comes face to face with her beautiful bridegroom; when we’re no longer husband and wife but eternally brother and sister in the arms of the Father.

We still don’t have a clue but what I’ve learned over the last 6 years is that our life reflects the love of our creator most when we humble ourselves and work together as a team for the sake of the gospel.

And I’m certain that’s true of us all – married or single, divorced or widowed, kids or no kids – when our eyes are set, and our hearts are humbled, to Christ and the work He’s called us to, His love overflows.

So no matter where you are on your journey, link arms with someone a couple steps ahead of you and a couple steps behind.

Let’s learn from one another even if we feel like we don’t have a clue.

June 8, 2020